the "right" man?

"But what does it mean the right man? The love of your life? The concept is absurd; the idea that we can only be complete with another person is EVIL!! Right??!!... You know, I guess I've been heartbroken too many times. And then I recovered. So now, you know, from the starts I make no effort because I know it’s not going to work out, I know it’s not going to work out."

Hello girls and boys! The quote above is from one of my favorite movies, Before Sunset. I went to see it with Suah when it came out in theaters...and we hadn't seen the prequel. I think my entry will be somewhat related to what Julie Delpy said but I'm not going to refer to it or force the connection. I hope my huge readership is doing well. I am doing well. I came back from Toronto yesterday. I saw my aunt and my eighteen year old cousin. Seeing a mother-son relationship while they're bickering back and forth (about clothes and studying) was interesting. I told my mother what I would do if I was in my aunt's position and upon hearing that, she thinks I'm going to be a really strict mom. Haha, we'll see. Maybe I'll update my huge readership on that years later when my son/daughter is being too naughty and sassy for me to take.

Anyhow, I got rejected from Washington, DC because I am not excellent enough. Well, to be more precise, a government agency in DC told me I was not excellent enough. Now, I don't have to be all confused about whether I want to do tax work or not. I will do tax work! Decision made! Why are rejections so hard to take? Even dings that shouldn't matter piss me off. I was probably not going to be able to say yes due to a prior commitment anyway but it still hurt. But to make things better and sweet,  Kim & Chang told me that my wagamama arrangement of working for them in the later weeks of the summer for five weeks is "acceptable." YAY.

When my aunt heard that I'll be in Korea and that I would interning at Kim & Chang, she got very excited and called her buddies. She is looking for someone suitable for me to marry. I have no idea if she is joking or not. But after I told her I was 26 in Korean age, she had the look of panic. So, if she was joking, she is probably no longer joking. The guy that she scoped out is in Hong Kong right now working in finance. He graduated from Harvard and is apparently amazing but short. He wants a tall woman. So I am not tall enough. Hmph! He is not tall enough for me too! Did you hear that whole analysis? This arrangement thing to meet up with people your relatives/parents set up is so shallow! I have four aunts and two of them will probably be very active in the search if they become serious about the matter. Haha. My mom was very excited about the prospect of my aunts playing matchmaker to her now old enough daughter. I am just right for the "match-making market." She thinks starting at thirty is too late. Also, she said since I'm not competent enough to find someone on my own, I should get help. She said it more nicely than that with lots of love. Strangely I don't hate the idea of being forced to meet eligible(?) bachelors. Why not? 

In the Korean dramas I've watched over the years, girls and boys were always forced to go meet people their parents or relatives thought would be suitable matches. They always whined...and wanted to find true love on their own (in the plot, they already had a significant other that their parents thought was not excellent enough). They behaved shabbily at those arranged meetings and brought shame to their family. Haha, so the idea that I should have is that these arranged meetings are bad and I must find true love on my own. Maybe I'm much more skeptical about the idea of finding true love or maybe I'm just lazy. But the idea that someone who you can trust arranging a meeting with someone whose specs look good at least on paper does not seem ridiculous to me. If my family thinks these eligible bachelors are potentially suitable to be my match...I should trust their judgment and at least be a polite, well-mannered and presentable girl at those cafes in the hotel when I meet those men (in the dramas, these arranged meetings always take place in a fancy cafe in the lobby of a hotel).

On the other hand, going on these dates after sifting through one's family background, education, and career (and face! since you probably provide a photo) is probably a very shallow exercise even though I suspect that this weighing thing happens in the context of finding true love on your own as well. I get why it's sort of wrong and is distasteful to those lovebirds in Korean soaps  And getting a ding before I even get to see the guy's face because of my so-called "qualifications" would be hurtful. I was not tall enough for the hypothetical boy in Hong Kong. I was not excellent enough! Bahs! Anyhow, if I do end up going on these arranged blind dates, I will blog about them. Hahah.

That is all for today. I must go open a textbook in order to be excellent enough for all those eligible bachelors! Or...to be presentable in front of Professor Kahn.