Thursday, April 22, 2010
(ir)relevance / I want to be in your life?
I think becoming irrelevant in someone's life is always somewhat of a sad ordeal. I mean, it goes both ways. If I become irrelevant in someone's life, I'm sure that someone is also slowly fading in my life (Kimura Takuya's line in the drama "Pride" was that after each good-bye, memories of that person were like photographs that turned into the color sepia). The really sad situation is when it's not 100% synchronized (when one party starts earlier than the other party). I think good-byes are awkward because the link that allowed one to be relevant in another person's life disappears. I feel secure in a lot of relationships with some people. I know that even when I go far away, the link remains -- we can pick up where we left off when we meet again. However, there are good-byes that really do mean good-bye forever and ever. Becoming irrelevant and saying good-bye is something we do all the time. I guess that's how we get to become relevant to other new people (hi!). I guess if they were meant to be in my life, they'll be in my life...it happens. Wait-- I don't really believe in that 100%. I think there is a lot of human effort that is demanded in order to be in someone's life. Anyway, if they're going to fade out of my life, what can I do but express gratitude for the moments of relevance. (Why is someone's a spelling error?)
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because you're not saying someone is life? no idea.
ReplyDeleteit's totes possible to never talk to someone ever again and still be relevant in his (her) life. you just have to have been a ridiculously memorable figure. some people leave echoes, even if the interactions may have been transient. (some cheeseballs may say "special people leave footprints in our hearts," but since i'm super hip and never EVER cheesy, i will refrain.)
ReplyDeleteI thought your post was good but I like suah's comment better
ReplyDelete1 eprop for lily
2 eprops for suah
we've lived such transient lives. esp you. you've moved through so many school systems growing up and your life will at least continue to be transient while you go to japan, mich, buffalo, and wherever for your LLM year. thats four places for the next two years. that's a lot of goodbyes, but the time when they were in your life is (bitter)sweet - its a memory that made your time there somewhat worth it. it's somewhat bitter, but hey let's focus on the sweet.
ReplyDeleteplus, you get to enjoy the hellos that do turn into a secure friendship (me!).